It's a Love Hate Thing!!!!

So today we’re going to talk about recovery after the heartbreak. As I discussed in my debut blog how I went through my very first real heartbreak and now what about the aftermath? Some women are ready and willing to move on after their “recovery period” and see what’s next in their future while others…myself included are on pause. Meaning we don’t really know what we want and how we want to go about it because we DO NOT want to feel that pain again. It’s a pain that is so indescribable but it hurts. So most of us have our guards up and we go with this long list of things that the next man we encounter can or can’t be. I was talking to one of my friends and I feel like I’m a pretty reasonable person and she went on to tell me about what she was expecting and how she didn’t want to be that chick who was basically looking for love in all the wrong places. Going from relationship to relationship without actually learning nor gaining anything. I mean by now we should all know that we can’t make a guy be who we want them to be but we can choose who we want to give our time to. So anyway….we were talking and she went on to tell me how she basically try not to get too close to guys so that she won’t have to worry about being hurt if things go left field. Which like I said….it’s simply unreasonable. We all know the purpose of dating is to get to know people and see what we like and dislike and enjoy ourselves in this learning process. It’s funny how one person can change the way most women view all men. But me on the other hand I’m up for dating but my main thing is the fact that I’m going through this journey and I’m finding myself….a lot of me feel like I want to invest this time in me but what happens when a guy come along who you’re really feeling? I know that all things are meant to be but where does the line get drawn? How can you take the experiences from your past relationship and not bring them into your future ones? As hard as it is to believe it’s true….not all men are alike just like not all women are! There are still some genuine people out here in the world who do aspire to bring out the best in you….I mean it may take some time but maybe all hope doesn’t have to be lost! I’m learning to appreciate the trials and tribulations now because who knows what the future may hold…..We all want the rainbow but no one wants the rain. So it’s okay to have boundaries and limits….just make sure in the process your being realistic. Surround yourself with the people who bring out the best in you….the signs are always evident but a lot of times we look past them because we don’t want to let go or we don’t want to lose all the time we feel like we have invested…starting over sometimes is the best thing to do. It’s hard but sometimes it’s the best….