MY SEVEN STEPS OF SANITY

So let me first start off with a major thank you for everyone who has been reading so far and supporting me. I can’t say thank you enough! I am so overwhelmed and honestly as hectic as everything is I am so grateful that I have the support because it keeps me grounded and motivated! So this week as I promised I am coming with SEVEN STEPS OF SANITY! I have had the chance to live, grow, and learn and I am really loving this person I am becoming. Now in my Seven Steps of Sanity it is coming from my view points and the things that I have been through personally. I find myself sometime all over the place and wondering what my purpose is. Why do I have this big imagination that I can’t seem to keep under control? Why do I have such big dreams, aspirations, and furthermore expectations? Why can’t I just get what I want accomplished now? I have so much on me and at times I feel like I’m going to crumble! If it’s not the stress of trying to get work done, then it’s parenting, or the feeling of feeling like you just never get the chance to pause, or the fact that you can give a person your last and they still expect you to produce more to give! Well, this has been me this past year and a half. Through triumph, laughter, tears, hard work, and dedication I have managed to make it and with my head still attached to my body! Below are some of the things that I am learning to do to keep me sane and make sure that outside of everything I am happy!

 

1.     Prayer! This is the first thing on my list because I remember a time when I didn’t really have much. I was stuck feeling lost and unsure of my purpose or what I wanted to do. Go to school, get a job, or anything else. I was literally stuck between a rock and a hard place. I was so out of whack. I remember when Monday came and I was thinking “Man…things can’t get any worse.” Then Wednesday came and I found them ten times worse than what they were. I am not the holiest person walking and I am not going to act like I am but it has honestly been through prayer and the grace of God that I have made it this far. There have been situations where I never thought that there would be a light but as he always seem to do he showed up and showed out. I thought that I was building a plan but he came and showed me that he had such a bigger one for me. This is why I say pray. No matter what dark tunnel you’re going through pray. It’s only so much advice that family and friends can give you. He’s the person that I know is listening even if no one else is.

2.     Learn yourself! Identify what makes you happy. What you want to do in life. It is a common stage in life where we really don’t know what route we want to take. I know that I have had some things that I have started and never completed. Going to school for nursing was on big one. I let a lot of people drill that in my head. “Its great money…its career stability….your always guaranteed a job!” Yes, all those things are true! They really are. But what about the fact that I don’t want to draw blood. Or I’m not interested in learning all the medical terminology. What about the fact that I just don’t want to be a nurse! You can’t let what other’s feel is right for you be your reality! It’s not fair! We all get the same seven days a week and just because they wish that they can go back and go down that career path doesn’t mean that you should let them force it on you! Learn what makes you happy! What makes you feel like you are doing what completes you inside! Sometimes it takes time....but it’s okay. I always felt like I wasn’t being realistic with what I wanted to be but when I realized that I can either live my life making someone else rich or live my life building my own empire I chose ME!

3.     State your goals and speak your success into existence! I want to be a bestselling author! I want to be a rapper! I want to be a doctor! I want to be a lawyer, counselor, social worker, or accountant! I want to be GREAT AND SUCCESSFUL! Success is something that we all want to achieve! No matter what you do we all want the bigger picture but the thing about it is that we all have different platforms and we have to work like we never have before. In my eyes and this is just MY OPINION as I always stress we have much more of a bigger platform than ever before. Don’t, get me wrong in so many cases it’s who you know BUT it’s also what you know! You have to take the steps to educate yourself on what YOU want to accomplish! We have so much more than the people before us! We have social media which is one of the absolute best platforms to better your craft. (This is me going into more of my goal!) I can’t expect to put something out but not be willing to work hard to make it reach its full potential. Because it’s up to you to invest in yourself and further more believe in yourself! You can’t just go say that this is my dream….this is what I am going to do because you know what more than half of the people you tell that to are going to look at you and laugh but that’s why you have to eat, breath, and live YOUR dreams to reach your SUCCESS!

4.     Be mindful of people! Soooo now we getting to the real! How many of you guys have that one person who you can become the President of the United States and instead of them congratulating you their telling you a million and one ways you could have campaigned better or how you didn’t do this correctly. I used to let those people get to me but then I realized that it has to be something wrong with me to let this small minded mofo make me feel inferior. I mean seriously….we all can do things a little better but trial and tribulation is what makes the victory worth it! The things you learn on the way is what makes the success so much better. “Never let a person who never lived out their dreams talk you out of yours!” I live by that….many people laugh at the author trying to make it. Or call the rapper garbage because he is not like everyone else but that’s what makes us so unique and different. We were all given different visions and different purposes. First, they’ll laugh at what you did then they’ll ask how you did it!!!!

5.     Relationships know what bridge to cross and which one is worth burning! We all know whether it’s a friendship, relationship, or whatever they take so much out of you. The people who we would give our last to are the ones already stealing it. When you interact with people you want them to give you as much as you put out but I had to learn the hard way that not everyone knows how to be a friend. You can’t expect for someone to give something that they don’t know how to give! People will take so much out of you and then when you’re dried up their either trying to squeeze a little more out or their on to the next. You can’t give everything to someone who doesn’t deserve nothing and furthermore you can’t give a person anything that you don’t have to give yourself. But we always seem to go above and beyond….trying to help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves.  I’m a firm believer that people are placed in your life as a lesson or a blessing. I have had more lessons than I would rather count but it is what it is. We have to take that lesson and apply it for future references.

6.     Learn to let go. Yes….anyone who know me know that I can be very evil when I’m pissed. I will think of ten million things that a person did to piss me off and hold it forever. That is something that I learned that I have to work on. I hold grudges forever and a day and probably more so because I know that when I’m fed up with you then you have really done it. But now I’m noticing how much energy it takes from me….it takes so much to be upset and angry. We never forget but forgiving is mandatory in my eyes because it brings peace within you! It’s not about easing their conscious but about bringing you some leverage!  Someone told me one day…”Brittany don’t let your past make you bitter. Let that be a stepping stone for you to get better.” That was probably one of the best things that they could have said. Being angry at someone who has hurt you or took your kindness for weakness isn’t helping you at all. They’re going to get what they deserve because karma is a funny thing. It comes along at a time when you least expect it and seem to hit you where it hurt repeatedly. I learned that and from being on both ends! I try to treat people how I want to be treated and if they mess that up then it’s okay because it’s their lost not mine!

7.     Finally have a positive outlet. We all come to the end of our rope where nothing is going right. We tried ten plans over and over and each one didn’t go as planned. We’re tired of talking to people who don’t understand our struggle. You’re tired of feeling like you just simply can’t win for losing.  We all go through that and if it’s no pain no gain. So as for me I love to listen to music and just take time out to clear my mind and put things into perspective. Sometimes you can talk to people until your blue in the face and although they are sincere we still have to face the reality that no one never really know what to say when we’re going through certain things. Outside of that sometime the answer that we’re looking for they just don’t know to give it. So rather it’s taking time to collect yourself, writing in a journal, or another hobby I find it as a must. Sometime life gives you batches of lemons and although we’re unprepared we still have to figure out how to make lemonade.

 

So guys this has been my Seven Steps to Sanity on my journey that has just began and I hope that you all found something helpful to take away. I love you all and thanks for all the support! It’s greatly appreciated! Remember when all else fail pray because he wouldn’t bring you to it if he didn’t plan to bring you through it! God id love and let’s make this trip one worth taking!!! Next week same time same place!