LET'S STOP THE VIOLENCE!!!

Hey everyone I know that I was supposed to have a vlog but I’m taking this time out to address the violence in the city. I was really trying not to take it there because it of course hurts everyone when you hear or see something. So today I was sitting at my Gramps house and my mom got a call that one of her best friend’s nephews got killed. I have only seen him a couple of times but I love her friend to pieces. She is such a genuine person and to know that someone is hurting and their family member a victim of senseless violence was taken at such an early age when he had never even began to see what life was about. I just want to know when does it stop? I am sure that this is going on in a lot of inner city’s but as a parent myself of only a five year old I worry sick for not only her but my little brother. At the end of the day we can’t keep our kids locked up no matter how much we want to. Who is to blame when a lot of parents to these children are probably working two jobs just to make it from month to month? Yeah, you have some parents who sit back and don’t say anything or are not all up in their kids business but you have others who are just as heart broken when they know that their child is the one behind taking a innocent life….what are we to do when our babies are simply killing one another? I used to think that I came from the strictest family on the planet of earth. My grandmother would call me ten times in one minute but I swear if I could just kiss and hug her and tell her “Grandma I get it….I understand and thank you for doing it.” I now know the fear that a parent have when the world will chew you up and spit you out. We can blame the media but at the end of the day it’s not their fault. It just hurts me to the core to know that people simply don’t care about life….it’s sad and frustrating. Our babies are our future and we’re losing them. Guns aren’t the problem…..not matter how we put it it’s the people behind the guns. Even my aunt which if you are reading and know my Auntie Patti she doesn’t play. She will say how she would be all in her kids business and in all honesty you have to be. With all that she has two sons who are doing great! I pray for my family safety everyday on their commute to and from work or school. I was really trying to stay away from writing this but I just want to know when is enough simply enough? When will it stop? When will mothers of innocent victims have to stop burying their babies? It’s a mother’s worse nightmare especially when they are working hard to make sure that their babies will be better off. I don’t know all the answers but I just want everyone out there to simply say a prayer because it definitely changes things. Pray for strength and understanding, for these kids to live and let live, and for these victims family to heal. Pray over your kids and hug them and love them tightly….don’t be afraid to be their parent because I am a living witness that if you are a parent first and friend last you will get better results. Kids say things but I promise you I commend my grandma, mom, aunts, and uncles for checking me. I commend them for it all because they loved me and they only wanted what was best. We have lost too many innocent babies to senseless killings and it breaks my heart every time I hear it as I know it does yours. So Chicagoans and anyone else from the inner cities pray….pray that things get better and that there can become some kind of peace here on earth.

Let's Be Friends!

Hey everyone I know my consistency has been kind of sucky but I am trying to do so much and I kind of been feeling myself a little overwhelmed. Everything is cool but I had to step back and get a few things together. Before I get into the topic for tonight I’m planning to do a vision board this weekend and I’m going to do a VLog about it. One of my friends made one and one of my cousins did so I’m thinking that it’s a pretty good way to get some inspiration and get a visual picture of those goals both long term and short term.

 

            Now the topic at hand is are you ever too old to categorize your friends? Meaning do you have certain friends who are in certain categories? I think at some time or another everyone goes through that phase. Where you know that some of your “friends” aren’t really on your level. These maybe the friends who are content with where they are and talking about goals and aspirations to them is like talking to a brick wall. But, on a different note when it comes to clubbing and going out to have a good time you know that you can definitely depend on them for those purposes only. Or you may have those friends who can call you and talk to you about everything that’s going on in their life but you can NEVER get them to give that listening ear because they are too busy once again taking the frustration that you have built up and talking only about their selves….pretty selfish right? Or the ones who know that you will always come through for them but you know asking them for anything is simply off limits. In all these things I’m basically saying when is it time to let go of those sometime people? Do you just keep them around for the small purposes that they do serve for you such as club hopping when no one else will. I think that we all go through those things but when do we cut them off? I guess I’m saying all this to say that no matter what dead weight is dead weight. I don’t have a lot of friends but the ones that I do have I value. Their more of family members. We can watch one another kids without a problem and pretty much do whatever needs to be done to make sure that at the end of the day we are all getting to where we are trying to be. We argue, we fuss, we get into it and don’t talk but it makes me love them that much more. I can be evil as hell some time but they know me so well. We can talk about anything and even if we’re wrapped up in our own lives for a little while picking up is never an issue. As women I think we can all vouch that we are sometime horrible to one another, so the friends that I have I appreciate and not only that the ones that I may have lost I appreciate them for that too because I learned that I’m better than that! So I hope that this helps you guys with some situation that you may have gone through or have gone through.

*REMEMBER NEXT WEEK IS MY VISION BOARD WITH A LITTLE MORE STUFF THAT I WANT TO SHARE. I HOPE THAT YOU ALL ARE BEING MOTIVATED AND ON A RIGHT PATH!!! LVOE YOU GUYS BE SAFE AND STAY WARM!!!!*

"Friendly Advice" Are You Really Adding Insult to Injury?

I hope everyone is enjoying their New Year and crossing off some of those goals off the list. I am overjoyed with the response that I got from the excerpt release and trust me the book will be well worth the wait! So this week I’m going to tackle some things on friends….we all have them. Some that we will go to the end and back for, give our left arm or give the best advice. So what happens when you and your bff are talking and you’re telling her about a problem that you’re having with your guy? Do you limit what you talk to her about with the fear that she is going to down you but not directly do it? Or do you let it out taking her opinion and either using it or saving it to piggy back on?

            Well I was on the train and I’m nosey as hell. I’m not even going to sit up here and lie. I will be listening to your entire convo and just laughing inside and utterly amazed. So anyway…I’m in my own world and these two girl in front of me were talking. The girl was telling her friend about how her and her boyfriend got into it over him dogging her basically. I mean she was into it. He had done some foul things but I’m guessing she was on the fence on if she should leave him or stay with him. Now no one likes to see their friends hurt or upset of course. But, what I didn’t like is outside of her giving her opinion which she did she seemed to not really leave well enough alone. You know it’s a way that you tell your friend that yeah you’re too good for that. Or even you deserve better. It’s a way that you say those things without adding insult to injury. So as they were talking she went on referring to her guy saying he will never do nothing like that to me….and I wouldn’t stick around for that $***. I mean yeah we do tend to stretch ourselves short when it comes to men. We do take a lot of b.s. from not wanting to start over or the fear of having to get accustomed to someone else’s b.s. Like I said we have all been there done that. But, as a friend is it okay to compare your relationship to your friends who is getting dogged? Is that being a real friend or is it low-key throwing shade? I was just sitting there listening trying to understand where it was okay that she felt like her man would NEVER cheat on her. I’m not saying all men cheat….because clearly I don’t know BUT as a friend I think that she should have left what she felt like her man would do out. She should have listened, empathized with her depending on how far the situation goes, and gave her encouraging words. Like I honestly felt like she wanted to say so much more but held her tongue. It kind of grinded my gears because I think at one point or another we have all been in that situation where someone was looking down at someone else’s situation. Like how do you take something like that? Do you have certain friends that you talk to about certain things? Do you just let it fly knowing that her opinion is just that? Do you take offense to it? I have been that girl where someone has done it to me and you will be surprised as to how things turn around and bite you in your ass! Be careful what pedestal you put a person on because when it comes crumbling down it hurts worst! You put these expectations in place and the person doesn’t hold up to them. Never say what you won’t stick around for because everybody plays the fool at one point or the other!