"Friendly Advice" Are You Really Adding Insult to Injury?

I hope everyone is enjoying their New Year and crossing off some of those goals off the list. I am overjoyed with the response that I got from the excerpt release and trust me the book will be well worth the wait! So this week I’m going to tackle some things on friends….we all have them. Some that we will go to the end and back for, give our left arm or give the best advice. So what happens when you and your bff are talking and you’re telling her about a problem that you’re having with your guy? Do you limit what you talk to her about with the fear that she is going to down you but not directly do it? Or do you let it out taking her opinion and either using it or saving it to piggy back on?

            Well I was on the train and I’m nosey as hell. I’m not even going to sit up here and lie. I will be listening to your entire convo and just laughing inside and utterly amazed. So anyway…I’m in my own world and these two girl in front of me were talking. The girl was telling her friend about how her and her boyfriend got into it over him dogging her basically. I mean she was into it. He had done some foul things but I’m guessing she was on the fence on if she should leave him or stay with him. Now no one likes to see their friends hurt or upset of course. But, what I didn’t like is outside of her giving her opinion which she did she seemed to not really leave well enough alone. You know it’s a way that you tell your friend that yeah you’re too good for that. Or even you deserve better. It’s a way that you say those things without adding insult to injury. So as they were talking she went on referring to her guy saying he will never do nothing like that to me….and I wouldn’t stick around for that $***. I mean yeah we do tend to stretch ourselves short when it comes to men. We do take a lot of b.s. from not wanting to start over or the fear of having to get accustomed to someone else’s b.s. Like I said we have all been there done that. But, as a friend is it okay to compare your relationship to your friends who is getting dogged? Is that being a real friend or is it low-key throwing shade? I was just sitting there listening trying to understand where it was okay that she felt like her man would NEVER cheat on her. I’m not saying all men cheat….because clearly I don’t know BUT as a friend I think that she should have left what she felt like her man would do out. She should have listened, empathized with her depending on how far the situation goes, and gave her encouraging words. Like I honestly felt like she wanted to say so much more but held her tongue. It kind of grinded my gears because I think at one point or another we have all been in that situation where someone was looking down at someone else’s situation. Like how do you take something like that? Do you have certain friends that you talk to about certain things? Do you just let it fly knowing that her opinion is just that? Do you take offense to it? I have been that girl where someone has done it to me and you will be surprised as to how things turn around and bite you in your ass! Be careful what pedestal you put a person on because when it comes crumbling down it hurts worst! You put these expectations in place and the person doesn’t hold up to them. Never say what you won’t stick around for because everybody plays the fool at one point or the other!